We Asked our Titos and Titas About Their Aspirations During Their 20s
by Anne Marielle Eugenio, July 10, 2019 10:05am
Art by Ahl Mirambel
Younger millennials and Generation Zs in their early 20s always seem in a rush to achieve whatever it is they aspire. We often seek to work on what we’re passionate about rather than to seek for stability. We’re often known to prioritize travelling over real estate investments. Our goals change and the mere thought of planning out the future feels scary.
When it comes to stability, we can’t help but look up to the adults we know—our moms, dads, titos, and titas. The economy back then was different compared to now. Still, how are they able to raise a child and buy a home in their 20s when in our 20s, we’re contemplating on buying an extra towel or not?
It’s a wonder if the adults we know have it all planned out. So we took the liberty to ask titos and titas what they aspired for when they were in their 20s and the answers are quite surprising:
“‘Yung ambition na matapos ang accountancy kahit working mom na. Pero hindi natupad eh. Mahirap talaga pagsabayin ang trabaho, being a mom, being a wife, and studying at the same time.”
Marcy, 46, retired NGO worker
“When I was 20, gusto ko magingdancer or singer or mag-Japan. Obvious na hindi ko na-achieve ‘yun. Pagka-graduate ko, nag-apply ako as a singing cook and waitress pero ayaw ng nanay ko. Saka ako nag-take ng board exam. Hindi ako nag-review kasi ayoko pumasa kaso pumasa ako take one pa lang. Kaya sabi ko ‘akin talaga ‘to. Kaya ngayon, pa-jamming-jamming na lang ako.”
- Concepcion, Gen X-ish, school teacher
“Wala akong goals or pangarap noon. Nagta-trabaho na rin kasi ako noong mga panahong ‘yun. Nagkaroon din kasi ako ng bisyo, paninigarilyo at pag-inom.”
-Albert, 49, former aircon technician
“Maging teacherpero hindi natupad dahil marami kaming magkaka-kapatid. Hindi kayang tustusan ang aking pag-aaral.”
-Lina, 49, store owner
“Makatapos ng studiespero ‘di ‘yun natupad kasi kulang sa finances. Pangarap ko rin magkaroon ng sariling bahay at lupa at kahit maliit na business. Nagkaroon naman ako ng lupa at maliit na tindahan.”
-Jocelyn, 57, business woman
“Makatapos sa pag-aaral, makapagtrabaho sa abroad, at magkaroon ng masaya at nagmamahalang pamilya. Hindi lang naging maganda ang ending namin ng ex-wife ko. Consequence siguro ng pag-alis at pag-work ko nang matagal sa abroad.”
-Rani, 49, OFW
“Pangarap ko makapagtapos ng kolehiyo pero ‘di natupad dahil sa hirap ng buhay. Ang pinangarap ko na lang, kumita at makatulong sa magulang. Pangarap ko rin magkaroon ng pamilya at makapagtapos ang mga anak ko sa pag-aaral. Awa ng Diyos, napagtapos ko ang panganay ko na med tech na ngayon.”
-Evelyn, 55, store owner
It’s quite comforting to know that the generation before us also had struggles similar to ours but they pulled through. They navigated their lives through even though there are uncontrollables in life.
Living this life in Manila is hardly a piece of cake, but let’s take one day at a time. Let’s find joy in the little things in this “adulting” period. Each day is a time to learn from our mistakes and make choices we’re afraid to make.
Interviews have been edited for clarity and brevity.