Queer Eye Hits Right Where It Hurts Sometimes
by Jace Amodo, April 03, 2019 4:38pm
Art by Allen Mirambel
When the Queer Eye remake hit the streaming giant Netflix in February 2018, we had no idea it'll hit us right in the feels. Fans of the 2003 OG Fab Five—as the cast like to call themselves—may know exactly what to expect from the remake. However, I will assume everyone's a new viewer like me because, duh, Nokia 3310 was life back then.
Composed of Karamo Brown, Jonathan Van Ness, Tan France, Antoni Porowski, and Bobby Berk, the new Fab Five shares to their clients a.k.a. "heroes" how they overcame issues surrounding the LGBTQIA+ community. It tackles toxic masculinity in between discussions on dressing appropriately and the likes—a narrative of self-improvement than a simple transformation. It is with such premise (and the cast's witty banters and sleek outfits) that made me binge right away.
The show gave me answers to questions I never knew I had as I binge the reality show. While I was busy playing "Space Impact," people (with cable) have something as ingenious as Queer Eye For The Straight Guy—I felt envious. I loved a lot of things about the Queer Eye remake, but perhaps my greatest takeaway from the show is the Fab Five's pearls of wisdom.
Here are eye-opening lessons from the new Queer Eye:
Remove the toxicity, not the relationship.
When Fab Five's Culture expert, the brilliant Karamo, said this quote, it was as if an invisible glass in my head shattered. It cried a new perspective towards detoxifying myself from rude people to the openly neutral ones who are unknowingly siding with the oppressors.
Happening upon said people on my social media feeds or in real life leads to either leaving them on "seen," muting them temporarily, or unfollowing them for good. The thought of approaching them never came and this quote changes that in more ways than one.
You can't have connection, joy, and happiness without vulnerability.
The ferocious Jonathan, the grooming expert, said the words I already know but needed reiterating. While the extrovert in me loves to hang out and spend quality time with my circle of friends, my introvert self keeps me from oversharing my life. I built walls only my close ones can break, and in all honesty, it slows down the process of building genuine friendships.
While I'm all for #YOLO and #JOMO, I'm guilty of choosing the latter more than the former. Missing out on a Friday night out or a casual coffee date means I get plenty of time for myself—to read, binge, play games. But at what cost? By dodging vulnerability, one can miss out on the real meaning of living life.
Sometimes when you're feeling buried, you're actually just planted.
Okay, these words were actually from a preacher's tongue that design expert Bobby heard, but is noteworthy still. Before Bobby became a design expert who turns squalid spaces into roomy ones, he went through a lot of hate growing up gay—from his church, no less. If I had the same experience from the church, I'd probably won't ever step foot inside one again, too.
These words reverberate issues we're all too familiar with. When you fall, you get back up stronger and smarter; a bit cheesy, but that's how it is. It's a matter of how we react to difficult situations.
You being your true self isn't going to offend anybody.
Today's freedom of expression has gone through the extremes; people are using this principle to impart their hard-to-swallow opinions sans the fear of retaliation. Should you concern yourself with their views, then? Fashion expert Tan says you can, but that's on you.
If I like pineapples on my pizza, putting a lime wedge on my margarita, or dressing unconventionally, it's my decision to make and my life to live. And if you pick the opposite of my preferences, as long as you're happy, I respect that. At least you know yourself.
To friends and lovers, f*ck the others.
Fighting a battle alone is like swimming without a life vest—it's possible, but a mean feat. These words (or toast, to be specific) was one of the show's most screenshot-worthy quote as it relays the message that you can dive through a whirlpool of difficulties with a friend or a lover. With someone who understands you at arm's reach, every other pessimistic noise becomes a tiny figure in the distance.
This quote, however, isn't from Fab Five's food and wine expert. Rather, it's from the friends of AJ, a 32-year-old civil engineer featured in Season 1, Episode 4 (To Gay or Not Too Gay). Sorry Antoni, but our heroes need some extra TLC. Antoni works up an appetite towards easy-to-cook meals, but we're hoping Queer Eye will show us a side of him we haven't seen yet. Season three's now on Netflix!