The World May Be Ending Soon But I Still Want To Have Kids
by Anne Marielle Eugenio, April 13, 2020 12:40am
Art by Ahl Mirambel
I’ve been going around asking people with the same age range as mine (I'm a millennial, fyi) if they’d want to have kids. More often than not, “no” is the answer I get—a lot due to economical and environmental reasons. To quote one of my friends, “I can barely get by to sustain myself. Another human being sounds like a nightmare.” Plus, there’s the dysfunctional society and politics that we have to put up with.
While it’s true that it’s hard to see a positive light on our environmental and economical situations, I am one of those people who’d still want to raise kids in the near future. But that led to the question, "Would it be selfish to want kids despite knowing the world isn't getting any better soon?"
My upbringing has naturally built me to want to have kids. The elderly have always instilled in me that when I am of the right age, I should get married and have children of my own. They say having a family is a good idea—I could have someone who’ll take care of me when I’m old. But as I grew older, I realized I didn’t want my kids to be my retirement plan. But my answer is as simple as I love kids—especially kids of my own. I like their puffy little cheeks, baby talks, and how they cling to you for comfort. Is that okay, society?
It’s difficult to answer the question “why.” I find it hard to explain why I still want to raise kids in this depressing if not downright cruel society. All I know is that I want to experience the feeling of joy once I help my own child after hours of labor. I long to see my kids running to me after the first day of school—either to show a star stamped on their hand or to complain about a naughty classmate. I want to see them striving to get their first job as there’s a certain satisfaction if you see them pushing through even though the odds are against them.
"But my answer is as simple as I love kids—especially kids of my own. I like their puffy little cheeks, baby talks, and how they cling to you for comfort. Is that okay, society?"
Having kids in this kind of world is no easy task. But I would try to raise kids that know how to stand up for themselves, to stand up for what they believe is right. The society has enough people who have no backbones of their own, and I want my children to be people who will remain upright. And to start, I will try to be a better person so I, too, can become a better parent.
Who would want to raise children in a polluted, corrupt, and dangerous society? But the idealistic side of me tells me that there will always be hope. There is at least a little space for a new creation. When there’s new life, there’s hope. And if I have the capacity to create hope, I would gladly do so.
Being a mom or a dad is not a dream job of many, but I would gladly take the task. Raising kids is not an opportunity to pass on the responsibility of making a change happen. When the time comes that I would be a mom, I hope people wake up and finally make this world actually liveable in every aspect. But if they would want to do something good to make a change in the future, I absolutely won’t stop them.