People You Should Catch up With at Least Once a Year
by Shara Mae Balce, February 14, 2019 1:47pm
Art by Dani Elevazo
The young adult life can be overwhelming—there are no undos and redos, you either have to make it or break it. It’s hard to juggle winging our careers, keeping our mental health in check and making time for people who matter. It all seems like you never have enough time for anything.
It doesn’t hurt to pause now and then, forget about the staggering piles of paperwork on your desk, get out of your head and spend time with people—the right people at least.
With precious time on your hands why not spend time with people who create a positive impact in your life?
Schedule an afternoon coffee or a quick catch-up with someone you look up to, especially someone who you think fits your definition of a mentor. Whenever you’re feeling unmotivated, it’s important to vent out your frustration to someone you know will help you out of that rut and be the best version of yourself—this person will have a tip or two to get you back on your feet.
Being with someone who reminds you of your younger self will make you realize and appreciate your youth—they may help you see how far you’ve come or motivate you to take on ‘adulting’ head on. You may not know of the relief you could give to a friend who looks up to you for personal anecdotes and perspective from your experiences. Connecting with a younger friend who can rub off on the same passion and outlook as you have can lead to a stronger relationship
The Online Friend
The innovation of technology has changed the dynamics of how we create and keep relationships. There are friendships that blossom thru online communication even if you barely know each other in real life. Anyone is bound to have one or two. This year, why not turn your virtual friend into real-life pal by meeting them in person (only if you find it comfortable)—who knows, your chats online could turn to constant coffee dates. Physical conversations trump online chat still.
Someone with a child (especially an infant or toddler) can be out of the reach so often. They usually cannot make it to the usual barkada dates or the ones who leave early during night-outs. The excuses are valid though. As a true friend, make an effort to visit friends with families of their own. Try to understand their responsibilities and their need to feel reconnected with life outside of their homes. Spend time with their kids too; be that cool tita who always have gum.
The Kaladkarin Friend
This one’s a no-brainer. Reach out to people who will make you feel less alone and will surely make a way to hang out with you—no questions asked. That one-call-away friend who replies to your sudden invites quickly even at work. “Where? What time? Now? G!” are our personal modern day heroes.
There are many reasons we lose contact with friends, but we must learn how to keep in touch with them especially the ones built over years. Do yourself a favor and reconnect with people you have not seen in a while. You owe it to yourself to recharge and surround yourself with people worth keeping. Reuniting with an old friend can be very rewarding. Sometimes, all it takes is a call or chat to regain feelings of closeness with the cherished ones.